Yvonne Frost - puts in words things I don't put into words, but recognise immediately.
We Go With Him - general attitude of love and support.
Ask which personal bond you are committed to: the person telling you what to do and sharing their deepest fears at the same time, or the person who you are defending and protecting until it all becomes clear, which will take a while.
If you like, dive into your own interests to provide a world to balance the one of home education. That's what I have done and it is a great antidote to the overwhelming responsibilities.